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This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved son and little brother, Owen Lingnau who was born in Wetaskiwin Alberta Canada on March 06, 2007 and passed away on May 28, 2007 to SIDS. This little boy was loved so much and had everything he ever wanted and needed in his short life of only 12 weeks. We are very heartbroken and miss him SO much. We will remember him forever. We know that he is one of God's precious little angels, watching over us and giving us peace.
1. I wish my baby hadn't died. I wish I had him back.
2. I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my baby's name. My baby lived and was very important to me. I need to hear that he was important to you also.
3. If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my baby, I wish you knew it isn't because you have hurt me. My baby's death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about my baby, and you have allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for both.
4. Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.
5. I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you; but I also want you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you would let me talk about my baby, my favorite topic of the day.
6. I know you think of and pray for me often. I also know that my baby's death pains you too. I wish you would let me know those things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big hug.
7. I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over in six months. These first months are traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief will never be over. I will suffer the death of my baby until the day I die.
8. I am working very hard on my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover. I will always miss my baby, and I will always grieve that he is dead.
9. I wish you wouldn't expect me "not to think about it" or to "be happy." Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate yourself.
10. I don't want to have a "pity party," but I do wish you would let me grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.
11. I wish you understood how my life has shattered. I know it is miserable for you to be around me when I am feeling miserable. Please be as patient with me as I am with you.
12. When I say, "I'm doing okay, " I wish you could understand that I don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily.
13. I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal. Depression, anger, frustration, hopelessness, and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected. So, please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.
14. Your advise to "take one day at a time" is excellent advice. However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now. I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time.
15. Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly it is not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast and I need to get off. When I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone.
16. I wish you understood that grief changes people. When my baby died, a big part of me died with him. I am not the same person I was before my baby died, and will never be that person again.
17. I wish very much that you could understand-understand my loss and my grief, my silence and my tears, my void and my pain. BUT, I pray that you will never understand.
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I Miss you SO much baby boy!!! / Jolene Lingnau (Mommy)
Baby Owen,,Mommy loves you and misses you so much, my heart is broken still and I long to hold you so bad I can't even stand it! This Christmas season is here and I WANT you HERE with us SO bad!!!!!!!!! I made you a beautiful wreath today and we will...
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Owen's 1st Christmas in Heaven / Sheila Pockett
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Thinking of Owen / Amber Terhune (Friend of mom )
Jolene and family I am so sorry today is such a difficult day. You have been in my thoughts all day. I am in tears looking at Owen's pictures on this site. It's all just wrong and unfair. I wish more than anything he was...
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condolances / RAYMOND ATTARD (nil)
On behalf of my family we would like to pass on our blessings and may God keep giving you strength. Despite not knowing you and your family we are touched by your experience and wish that the hole in your heart heals fast. Your little Angle is defina...
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To Jolene Deepest Condolences. / Elly Collins (acquantance)
One of my puppy buyers is buying one of your babies. And i WENT to your site. I so feel for you, as we just lost our little Jocelyn this last year. She died from Hyperinsolism. (probably spelled it wrong)
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More news / Sharla Hull (Auntie) Read >> |
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First Memorial / Sheila Pockett (Friends of the Family ) Read >> |
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So Sorry / Nadine Forlizzi Read >> |
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with love to you all.......rememberin-g Owen / Judith Earnshaw (DS) Read >> |
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I share your Grief / Norma Jeanne Pohl (friend of his Mom's - I only saw Owen once at his first dog show ) Read >> |
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"HAPPY BIRTHDAY OWEN" / Sheila Pockett (Friend of the family ) Read >> |
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My heart goes out to you!!!! / TELESIA SOBOL Read >> |
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Miss you! / Auntie Angie Fedorchuk (Auntie) Read >> |
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My condolences / Theresa Orcutt Read >> |
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New Baby cousin / Sharla Hull (Auntie) Read >> |
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| His legacy |
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Poem "What Makes A Mother"
What Makes A Mother?
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today,
I asked what makes a mother,
And know I heard him say
”A mother has a baby
this we know is true
But God, can you be a mother,
When your baby’s not with you?
“Yes you can,” he replied,
with confidence in His voice,
“I give many women babies,
when they leave it is not their choice.”
Some I send for a lifetime
And others for a day
And some I send to fill your womb
But there is no need to stay.”
I just don’t understand this God.
I want my baby here
He took a breath and cleared his throat,
And then I saw a tear.
I wish I could show you
What your child is doing today,
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say
“We go on earth to learn our lessons
of life and love and fear.
My mommy loved me oh so much
I got to come straight here.”
I feel so lucky to have a mom
Who had so much love for me,
I learned my lesson very quickly,
My mommy set me free.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow’s where I lay.
I stroke her hair
And kiss her cheek
And whisper in hear ear,
“Mommy don’t be sad today,
I’m your baby
and I’m Here
So you see my dear sweet one,
Your child is okay,
Your baby is in My home
And this is where he’ll stay
He’ll wait for you with me
Until your lesson is through
And on that day you come home
He’ll he at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a mother.
It’s the feeling in your heart.
It’s the love you had so much of,
Right from the very start….
Author Unknown
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Poem I wrote to my baby a few days after his death
God sent me an angel
Why did he have to go?
I had my perfect little son
With him I had so much fun
You were my little man
You had a good short life
When you were taken from me
It cut me like a knife
I loved that little baby
I would rock and kiss and love
And now I can only do that again
When I meet him in heaven above
How I long to feel him next to me
To kiss is chubby cheeks and toes
To stroke his soft warm back
And kiss that cute little nose
His hair I would love to smell
As I gently rocked him to sleep
Now God above has taken him
Forever Him to keep
I can’t believe the bond I felt
In such a short little while
I would give absolutely anything
Just to see his smile
I would just sit and stare
At this precious little boy
How perfect he really was
He gave me so much joy
I cherished every moment
So grateful he was given to me
I miss my little man so much
I don’t know why this has to be
I love you so much baby Owen
I am so sorry I wasn’t there
To find you in your time of need
The thought I cannot bare.
Good-bye my beautiful son
Mommy loves you so so much
One day I will come to you
My journey to you has just begun
Jolene Lingnau
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| Owen's Photo Album |
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